The save button greys out because VAPI doesn't accept localhost URLs it requires a publicly accessible URL. Your n8n MCP server running on localhost can't be reached by VAPI's servers, so it rejects it before saving.
You need to expose your local n8n with a tunnel. Use ngrok or Cloudflare Tunnel to get a public URL pointing to your localhost, then paste that into VAPI instead. Connect with me if you need help setting it up
@scaramouche